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Where’s Your Lipstick?

Mac Liquid Matte Lipstick
Where’s your lipstick? That’s a common question I would get from my beloved aunt ( I love you if you’re reading this). A question I found to be annoying at times. And oh! Don’t tell me it will somehow get me a man. Like they really give a care about that. Now I will be honest, I love a good lip color and I like wearing makeup. But I didn’t like wearing it all the time. My excuses usually ranged from I didn’t have time to put it on to I don’t have the right lip liner to go with the lipstick that is currently in my purse. Truthfully I was just not trying some days and being quite lazy with it. One day it dawned on me, why do I fight against wearing some form of makeup and claim to love wearing it? I’m actually pretty good at applying makeup almost like an artist of some sort. So what is the deal? I thought long and hard about this and I start thinking about how I actually feel when I am wearing lipstick. Cute and confident. To encourage me to wear it more often, I gave it meaning. To wear lipstick is to present my best and my best brings out my confidence, which is attractive. Ah! Now I get it. Everyday I make a serious effort to not leave the house without at least some lipstick or some blush on. I’m working on adding eyeshadow too. What are you fighting against? That thing you’re fighting against may make you your best self. Explore the things that make you feel your best and start adding it to your life.
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Just Show Up!

It has been said that those who show up, go up. Well what does that mean, exactly? To me it means that there are possibilities, opportunities awaiting you when you show up to places. I’ve experienced this personally of course, as of matter of fact just on last week. The immediate thought that came to me was all the other times when I’ve showed up to something that resulted in something happening for me. Let me explain, I told myself that I was going get out and go and do different things around town and last week I decided to attend the gallery hop that we have every 3rd Thursday here in downtown Orlando. As the time drew near to go to this gallery hop, I almost talked myself out of going. As social as I am, I can be a homebody sometimes and after work many times, I would rather go and chill at home. But, I didn’t do that I pushed myself to go out. So I went and saw beautiful art pieces at the various stops. At one stop they were doing a raffle for a classical Chinese ballet performance that was going to be at the Dr. Phillips Center, so the gentleman doing the raffle asked if I wanted to put my name in to win two tickets to the performance. I thought, “why not?” Well, guess who won 2 tickets? Moi. And here I thought, I almost didn’t show up and that wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t show up. So the moral of the story here folks is just show up. You never know what may become of it. Like I have stated before I have experienced some pretty cool things just for showing up to places. Below are a few examples:

  • I won a VIP ticket to big Art show in Orlando when I showed up to a food truck event that I almost didn’t go to.
  • I connected with someone that lead to a job opportunity at an event that I decided to attend at the last minute.
  • While at a conference that I was working, I connected with someone that hired me to work for them.

I would like to leave you with this final thought, showing up isn’t just about you. Overall, I believe that showing up can do two things. It can help you and it can help someone else. For example, I showed up to an event while there I connected with someone who worked for a company who so happened to be looking for someone with my skill set to fill a role that someone just vacated. It helped me because I was looking for work at the time and I helped them because I was able to fulfill a need that the company had. You get it? This year, I want stop with the excuses as to why you don’t show up to things. Get out there and show up. I promise you the rewards will be abundant when you do.

Shen Yun Tix
My prize for showing up. 🙂


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The Thing About Consistency

Be Consistent Quote

This past October, I made a decision to get fit. I’ve never been fit in my entire life ya’ll. So the decision to do so was a little daunting at first. Simply put I kind of got tired of running out breath when I covered short distances. So I figured exercise would improve this. Some other things I thought that it would improve is my overall physique, boost my confidence, and make me feel better and stronger.  To get the ball rolling, I joined my local Y.  I hadn’t been a member since I left Michigan. Because I decided to make this more of a lifestyle change rather then some hit it and quit it goal, I went all in. I signed up and paid my money. I then did what every excited new member does, plan my workout schedule. I went over the class schedules at 3 of the Y’s closest to me. I saw Zumba (Yay!), Cardio Step (Double Yay!) and started to make a schedule for myself and then I took it a step further. I needed to add some strength training to the mix and on the schedule of classes the only thing that worked with my schedule was the 5:45 am Body Pump class. Yikes! I must admit, that is way too early in the morning. I just yawned typing that sentence as Wednesday mornings is one of my days to go to Body Pump. Anyway, when I saw that was my only option, I made a decision. I am going to get up two days a week and go to this class. I made a commitment. I’m glad I did it to too, because I feel great, I feel stronger, and a little shocked at my capabilities. And yes, I am starting to see a difference too. I’ve been going consistently since the end of October. Well on last week I hit a weird plateau of some sort. I could not get out of bed to attend class. I would wake up but I wouldn’t exit the bed. I even remember pulling the covers off me and then pulling them right back on. LOL. I just wasn’t feeling it. I desired to sleep more. But you know what, I found myself missing being in my class and feeling like I took a step back in the progress I was making. Although, I missed my Body Pump classes that week, I did attend my cardio classes. My cardio classes are in the evenings and happen right after work, so I found those easier to go to. So this feel made me half better. So this week I returned to my class and it kicked my butt. From this I immediately came to the conclusion that it really does pay to be consistent. I struggled way more than I’d like to admit. You see each week I do Body Pump, I give myself a chance to get stronger. So when I stopped being consistent for a week, I started the process of going backwards. Additionally, I missed the new track they started on last week. This caused me to be behind the curve and spend most of the class figuring out the new moves. The lesson here is to be consistent. I had no real legit reason to miss classes that week, so shame on me.  Unless I am on vacation, you will find me on Wednesday and Friday mornings at 5:45 am in my Body Pump class. What goal have you set and have failed to be consistent on? Renew your commitment today and get back to it.

Hip Hop Hustle
Feeling Sweetastic after Hip Hop Hustle at the Y
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Criticize Much?

WORK. We all gotta do it. It is essential to survival, because if a man doesn’t work, he doesn’t eat, right? Work can be an enjoyable thing but sometimes work can be highly stressful for a plethora of reasons. I would like to discuss one part of work that I don’t enjoy but in my working life, I have come to understand that it is often necessary.That would be criticism. In fact it makes cringe actually.

As of late work, has been particularly trying for me. My work involves me putting together well-designed marketing packages for properties that are for sale. Like deals that are worth several million dollars. Designing doesn’t always come easy to me but I can do it. It takes me some time but I can do it. Well this week, I’ve had to endure being told that my work doesn’t look good, that the designs were ugly and unliked. Ouch. Definitely something you don’t want to hear after you’ve spent hours putting it together for them. So what’s a girl to do? How do you handle criticism from your bosses? Because despite the criticism I was receiving, I still had to produce a good product. Here’s what I did:

1. Ask Questions

Sometimes when it comes to producing a creative product, people or clients have a hard time expressing exactly what they want. They say something like, “just make it look good” and you go and do that only for you to find out that’s not what they meant. So I ask questions, I go through each page with them if I have to. I ask what are you trying to accomplish here? What do you want to highlight on this page? Why is this important? You shouldn’t be afraid to ask questions,it is welcomed a good majority of the time. Plus it shows you taking ownership of your job.

2. Exceed Expectations

Be willing to do what is necessary to get the job done. This usually means working longer hours or picking up extra shifts. Though I do find it frustrating when projects are not executed in the way they should be. I still want to do a good job. So I put in the work for that to happen. Making efforts like this usually doesn’t go unnoticed by management. Even it does go unnoticed, having an impeccable work ethic makes you hire worthy in anyone’s book.

3. Bulk Up Your Training

Not being a designer by trade, I always am seeking to improve my skills. I am way better designer than when I first started this job. This is due to the fact that I spent hours watching instructional design videos and practicing things I learn. I am now at a point where I can fine tune a couple of skills. in fact, I will have some downtime soon and I already have planned some training for myself. Pay attention to the things you keep getting critiqued on and then go out and get the training that you need so that you can improve.

How do you handle criticism from your boss on the job? Please share. I am curious to know.